How To Get Your Husband Pay Attention To You
Tips for how to get your husband’s attention is to learn how to communicate with him.
- Listen without interruption when he responds
- Tell him how you feel by catching him at a good time when he isn’t worked up or stressed out.
- Calmly express how you’ve been feeling.
- Don’t bombard him with accusations.
Getting his attention isn’t always about the obvious, explicit things.
There are things you could tweak about the way you interact that should bring significant improvements in your life together.
Lately, you’ve been feeling like he hasn’t really been around.
Sure, you spend time together but it feels like he’s not really paying attention to you.
He’s there but he’s not really there.
When this happens, it’s not necessarily because something is wrong.
Sometimes life just gets in the way and affects how people interact with each other, especially in marriages.
If you’re feeling a bit unloved and you think your husband could be paying more attention to you, there are things you could do to bring his focus back to you without having to beg him for it.
You’re his wife, after all, and the last thing you should do is to plead for love.
Here Are Some Tips On How To Get Your Husband Pay Attention To You:
Dress nicely for him
Seeing you around in sweats and oversized t-shirts won’t necessarily harm your marriage but it certainly is doing it no favors either. The fact of the matter is, your husband still has a beating heart, and that beating heart will respond to good-looking things.Throw on a sexy black dress every once in a while. Remind him why he should feel so lucky to be your husband
Mind the nagging
Getting his attention when he doesn’t even seem to know it can be frustrating.
You’re doing what you can to rekindle the spark and you just want him to see that you need a little bit more than what he’s giving right now.
Your husband might not always be quick to see these things.
The more you try to make him want you, the more discouraging it gets if he doesn’t respond to your initiation.
Without even knowing it, this annoyance could easily transpire in your daily interactions.
This certainly won’t help your attempt to seek out more affection from him.
One common habit that married couples get into is nagging each other.
Just minding this habit could increase your chances of rekindling that lost flame with your husband. No one likes being hounded.
When you nag someone, it’s like you’re forcing them to ignore you.
Over time, they’ll develop a defense mechanism to just block out everything that you want to say.
Make him know you’re still attracted to him
Who’s to say you’re the only one feeling a little bit neglected?
Your husband might not be showing you affection because he’s not feeling happy himself.
Over the course of many years together, he might no longer feel as confident as he once was.
Worn down by day-to-day responsibilities, paying bills, and just setting up a family together, he might no longer be in touch with the voice in his head that tells him he’s a sexy guy.
You might just be what he needs to feel good in his own skin again.
If he hasn’t been affectionate lately, it might be less about you and more about how he doesn’t feel as confident in his own skin.
Give your husband a little nudge.
Compliment his appearance and remind him how handsome he truly is.
Guys need compliments too to feel good, and just a small sincere gesture can be what he needs to get all loved up with you again.
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Flirt with him
Banter and humor are crucial fuels in a relationship.
The initial “will-they-won’t-they” is arguably one of the most exciting things about the early stages of dating someone.
As with other things, familiarity makes relationships more straightforward.
Sometimes sleeping together becomes less sensual and more routine.
Don’t let that initial spark die.
Spark and romance isn’t all about international trips and doing crazy things together.
It’s not about completely deviating from your routine and finding big life-affirming events to make sure you’re still in love.
Sometimes it’s as simple as engaging him in witty banter, flirting with him, and teasing him a little bit. Let him know that you can still catch him off guard and excite him in the smallest ways.
Be confident around him
Nothing is sexier than a woman who is confident in her own skin.
If you want your husband to genuinely pay attention to you because he wants to and not because you’re begging for it, showing him that you’re good energy to be around will serve as a natural magnet to him.
Men are drawn to strength.
He has his own things going on with work and other aspects of his life.
Being able to draw strength from your confidence and knowing that his wife is happily existing on her own is much better than making him feel like you’re completely dependent on him.
At the end of the day, it’s all about mystery. Lure him in with your own confidence.
Instead of asking him to pay more attention to you, show him reasons why he should.
Attraction is fundamentally rooted in the push and pull. The more you push, the more he goes away.
But if you’re subtle with your pull and confident with every tug, your husband is sure to come running back to you in no time.
Find out where the need for attention comes from
Look, we could give you a million ways to get your husband’s attention, but it may never be enough unless you get to the root reason as to:
A) Why you crave his attention
B) Why he’s not giving you the attention you need
Everything else is a bandaid that might or might not heal the wound.
So how can you get down to the heart of why you’re not receiving the attention you feel you deserve?
I want to suggest doing something different.
It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe.
Spice things up in the bedroom
This is probably one of the most cliche pieces of advice you’ll ever see, and for good reason.
Men are still primal beings after all.
You could be married 20 years, have children, and live good, healthy lifestyles but there’s no denying that something between you is still carnal.
Stroking his interest in the bedroom is bound to get him excited in different aspects of his life.
It’s not just about sex and it certainly is more than just about tearing each other apart like animals.
It’s about reconnecting and discovering intimacy and physical compatibility.
It’s about recommitting and making each other realize that the attraction is still very much there.
The bedroom is just one avenue for improving intimacy and strengthening your connection, but it is often a crucial starting point.
Once you get him interested, he’s bound to be more attentive in every single aspect of your marriage.
Give him some time alone
A big difference between men and women is the need to be alone.
While we all need and yearn for alone time, it’s usually the man in the relationship who needs it more than the woman.
This is due to a number of reasons: women are naturally more social and have more social bonds, whereas men usually learn how to be happy with themselves.
So committed relationships can sometimes be difficult for a man because they may tend to feel overwhelmed with the responsibility of being another person’s rock.
If your man has started to become distant from you, it might feel like you have to give him more love and attention, but that could actually be driving him further away.
Give him the space he needs to breathe.
This doesn’t mean he hates you or dislikes being married to you; it just means that he needs the time and space to relax, feel like he’s himself again, and reevaluate his life and all the great things he has in it (including you).
Respect Who He Is
When you marry a man, you might be thinking that it’s time to start building your lives together, and that means accommodating each other’s wants and needs.
You might want to “fix” the things that you think are bad about him — anywhere from the way he cleans the house to his politics and moral beliefs — and you might get frustrated when it starts to feel like you’re getting nowhere.
But remember: you didn’t marry a husband. You married a man, with his own unique thoughts, beliefs, and personality quirks.
The more you try to change him, the more he’ll resent you, even if he doesn’t have the guts to say that to your face. If you want him to start loving you again, you need to let him be who he is.